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- Cheating
How do you know if your partner is cheating?
Usually you cannot tell from behaviour, and the research is unusually blunt about it. Across hundreds of studies people identify deception…
Moderate evidence1votes14 min read - Sex
How often should married couples have sex?
There is no correct frequency. Survey data puts most married couples somewhere around once a week, with enormous variation, and the best…
Moderate evidence4votes1comments9 min read - Cheating
Can watching porn be considered cheating?
There is no objective line. It depends on what you and your partner actually agreed, and most couples have never had that conversation. Where it…
Contested4votes11 min read - Sex
How do you bring up STI testing with a new partner?
Raise it well before you are anywhere near a sexual moment, lead with your own results and dates instead of asking for theirs, and ask what they…
Moderate evidence2votes14 min read - Lifestyle
Is it okay to sleep in separate bedrooms?
Yes, and it is more common than most people realise. Sleeping apart is only a problem when it is a way of avoiding each other rather than a way…
Moderate evidence2votes11 min read - Cheating
Is flirting cheating?
There is no universal line. Research consistently finds that people disagree about whether flirting counts as infidelity, and that the…
Moderate evidence1votes11 min read
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