Editorial policy

Nothing on this site is therapy, medical advice, or legal advice. We are a research and editorial team. Every question page carries this advisory, and pages covering abuse, self-harm, or crisis put support resources above the fold rather than below the analysis.

Every claim falls into one of four buckets, and you can always tell which: a specific research finding, professional consensus among clinicians, what people commonly report experiencing, or something true by definition. We never attach “studies show” to a clinical opinion.

Research findings carry a confidence level, strong, moderate, limited, or contested, and always state their limitations. Limited and contested are honest answers to most relationship questions, and saying so is the point of the site rather than a weakness of it.

No fabricated studies, authors, journals, years, DOIs, statistics, or quotations. If a citation cannot be grounded in a real, verifiable source, it is omitted. Our validation gate blocks publication when prose references studies that no source supports, and when a page claims strong evidence with nothing cited.

We summarise and analyse; we never reproduce source text. Public forum discussions inform which questions we answer and what people actually experience, their text is never republished and individual posts are never quoted or identifiable.

Where reasonable people disagree, both cases are written as strongly as we can make them. Neither side is written to lose, and neither side gets the more attractive visual treatment.

On genuinely contested questions we do not hand down a verdict. We tell you which factors decide it for you, which is the only honest thing to offer.

Where a tradition has a substantive position on a question, we may include it. It is always attributed to a named tradition and, where relevant, to a specific school or denomination, traditions are not monolithic and we say so when they are internally divided.

Perspectives are presented as what a tradition teaches, never as what is true. No tradition is ranked above another, and a secular perspective always appears alongside them. A reader of any faith or none should be able to read the page without being told they are wrong.

This site is for readers 18 and over. Sex and intimacy are covered frankly and clinically, without titillation and without moralising about consensual adult choices. We do not publish sexually explicit material.

Content sexualising minors in any framing. Instructions for coercing, surveilling, stalking, or controlling a partner. Advice that would keep someone in a situation showing abuse markers. Diagnosis of any individual. Anything identifying a private person.

Published answers are versioned. When the evidence changes or we find an error, the page is updated, its modified date moves, and material corrections are noted on the page. We do not silently rewrite history.