Sex
Does body count actually matter?
Two things are true and they pull in different directions. Large studies do find modest associations between more past partners and lower…
Contested14 min read
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Sex
Covered frankly and clinically for an adult audience. Includes what the survey data really says about frequency, which is usually reassuring and almost always misreported.
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Why can I not orgasm with my partner?
For most women the answer is mechanical rather than psychological. In a national probability sample, fewer than one in five reported that…
Moderate evidence15 min read - Sex
Does watching porn cause erectile dysfunction?
The larger studies do not support it. Across several thousand men in several countries, the amount of pornography someone watches shows little…
Moderate evidence15 min read - Sex
How often should you get tested for STIs?
For most people the anchor is once a year while sexually active, and again with each new partner. Sexually active women under 25 are advised to…
Strong evidence12 min read - Sex
How do you bring up STI testing with a new partner?
Raise it well before you are anywhere near a sexual moment, lead with your own results and dates instead of asking for theirs, and ask what they…
Moderate evidence2votes14 min read - Sex
Is it normal to have less sex after having kids?
Yes, and it lasts longer than most couples are told. Frequency drops sharply and recovers slowly over the first year and beyond, driven by…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
Is it okay to say no to sex in a marriage?
Yes. Marriage does not transfer consent in advance, and in most jurisdictions the law is explicit that it does not. That part is not a matter of…
Strong evidence11 min read - Sex
What do you do when one partner wants sex more than the other?
Start by treating it as the ordinary condition of a long relationship rather than a fault in either person. Research on desire discrepancy finds…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
Why has my sex drive disappeared?
Usually because something changed that has nothing to do with wanting your partner. Medication, particularly SSRIs and some hormonal…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
How often should married couples have sex?
There is no correct frequency. Survey data puts most married couples somewhere around once a week, with enormous variation, and the best…
Moderate evidence4votes1comments9 min read - Sex
Is once a month a sexless marriage?
No. Every definition used in the actual research sets the line at no sex over a period, not at a low number, and once a month clears all of…
Moderate evidence12 min read