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Is it normal to have less sex after having kids?
Yes, and it lasts longer than most couples are told. Frequency drops sharply and recovers slowly over the first year and beyond, driven by…
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- Intimacy
How do you know if you have fallen out of love?
The reliable signal is not whether the intensity has gone, because it reliably does in almost every long relationship. It is whether warmth and…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Intimacy
Are we in a roommate marriage?
Probably, if the two of you are cooperating well and connecting rarely: logistics get discussed, affection does not, and neither of you is…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
Is it okay to say no to sex in a marriage?
Yes. Marriage does not transfer consent in advance, and in most jurisdictions the law is explicit that it does not. That part is not a matter of…
Strong evidence11 min read - Sex
What do you do when one partner wants sex more than the other?
Start by treating it as the ordinary condition of a long relationship rather than a fault in either person. Research on desire discrepancy finds…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
Why has my sex drive disappeared?
Usually because something changed that has nothing to do with wanting your partner. Medication, particularly SSRIs and some hormonal…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Sex
Is once a month a sexless marriage?
No. Every definition used in the actual research sets the line at no sex over a period, not at a low number, and once a month clears all of…
Moderate evidence12 min read - Money
Should couples split bills 50/50?
Only if you earn roughly the same and want to stay financially independent. Where incomes differ, an equal split takes a much larger share of…
Moderate evidence1votes12 min read - Self Improvement
What is my attachment style and does it matter?
Attachment style describes how you tend to respond when a close relationship feels threatened or uncertain. The research behind it is solid, and…
Moderate evidence10 min read - Lifestyle
Is it okay to sleep in separate bedrooms?
Yes, and it is more common than most people realise. Sleeping apart is only a problem when it is a way of avoiding each other rather than a way…
Moderate evidence1votes11 min read - Cheating
Can watching porn be considered cheating?
There is no objective line. It depends on what you and your partner actually agreed, and most couples have never had that conversation. Where it…
Contested2votes11 min read - Cheating
Is flirting cheating?
There is no universal line. Research consistently finds that people disagree about whether flirting counts as infidelity, and that the…
Moderate evidence1votes11 min read - Parenting
Should parents stay together for the kids?
The research does not support a general rule in either direction. What it does support is that children exposed to sustained, hostile conflict…
Moderate evidence1votes10 min read - Sex
How often should married couples have sex?
There is no correct frequency. Survey data puts most married couples somewhere around once a week, with enormous variation, and the best…
Moderate evidence1votes9 min read - Cheating
Can a relationship survive infidelity?
Many do. The most informative evidence comes from couples who entered therapy after an affair and were followed for years afterwards: they…
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